I hope you read my last blog about my favorite book,Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Success, by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, David Maxfield, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler. This week we’re going to look at Personal Motivation.
Let’s start with your crucial moments. Do you get sucked into the $1 bins at Target (I’ll admit, sometimes I have to drag myself away from them)? Or do you come home from work so tired that you drop everything at the door (or on the kitchen table) saying you’ll deal with it all later (only to be scrambling to get out the door the next morning)? Or maybe you say yes anytime someone asks you to help or join a committee, even if you know you don’t have the time!
With your crucial moments in mind, think about your default future. Where are you headed if you keep living this way? Imagine your worst case scenario if you don’t change. Overwhelming debt? Exhaustion, illness, or missing out on time with your family? Resentment? Not being able to find anything in your house when you really need it?
Ok, now that you have your default future in your mind, let’s look at changing the way you make choices or learning to love what you hate. Yes, you can do that. You need to see and believe in the future you want.
Here are some tips on learning to love what you hate.
Use value words. Why are you making this change? What good will come from this change?
- You want save more money or quickly find clothes to wear, clothes that are clean and ready to put on. You want to eat dinner at your table with friends and family or be able to host Thanksgiving.
Make it a game. How can you make this change fun? Break your goal into small tasks, compete with a friend. What can you do to provide yourself encouragement along the way?
- Get rid of 2 pieces of clothes each day, spend 5 minutes every day sorting through the mail, put on some music, set a timer, set a deadline, sing a song, make it fun.
Create a personal motivation statement. Create something to remind yourself why you’re doing this that you can glance at during your crucial moments.
- Find a picture of something you aspire to such as a family dinner, an organized closet, or a trip you want to take and need to save money for.
This week, choose one or two of the above tips and figure out how to incorporate them into your change plan.
Next time, we’ll look at Personal Ability.